The Art of Loving and Accepting Oneself

The Art of Loving and Accepting Oneself

Self-love is fundamental to achieving what we desire in life. Believe it or not, it is reflected in all aspects of our lives: family, money, work, and of course, in the way others treat us. Self-love is, therefore, the definition we have of ourselves, and of course, I believe it is one of the keys to success. 

Let me tell you: I’ve been there. There was a time in my life when I didn’t feel my best, and when I looked in the mirror, I saw only the negative. Obviously, I had a dysfunctional relationship with myself, and this carried over to my relationships with the people around me.

In my own experience, I know how difficult it is to live without self-love and to live instead with doubt and self-criticism. However, there came a time when I decided to get out of that dark place, and I succeeded. That is why I am here to share with you a series of habits that will help you to love yourself a little more each day. 

The Importance of Self-Love: An Act of Authenticity

I would like to begin by talking about the reality that if you do not love and value yourself, how can you expect others to value you? Your mood and attitude will be externalized in the world around us. Remember that in the end, our lives are a reflection of what is in our minds. 

Some people believe that self-love has to do with being selfish. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Actually, it’s much deeper. It means having positive feelings about and taking care of ourselves; respecting each other, treating each other well, and talking to each other with affection. It also means being responsible for our actions.

When we do this, we connect with the kindest part of our being. As a result, we improve the relationship we have with ourselves and our environment, our self-esteem is strengthened, and we make decisions that are aligned with our values and desires. 

My invitation to you is to be kinder to yourself.  When you start doing this, you will notice how everything around you changes. 

Cultivating a Stronger Bond

So that you can begin to cultivate self-love, below I will tell you about a series of daily habits that have helped me become the love of my life. 

1. Select those around you wisely.

I am a firm believer that the people we associate with greatly influence our mindset and the performance of our activities. It’s much better to be around people who inspire you and drive you toward growth. Therefore, be selective when choosing your tribe. But above all remember to stay away from toxic people who do not bring you anything.

2. Recognize your achievements and celebrate your triumphs.

As human beings, we often extend love and understanding to others. But what if we also direct that attention to ourselves? Recognizing our achievements and valuing ourselves is the foundation of a full and meaningful life. 

Congratulate yourself on your achievements and don’t wait for others to applaud you. Recognize and celebrate that you do good things, and if you can reward yourself for it, that’s even better!

3. Free yourself from comparisons

It is no secret that we are all unique in this world. So I recommend that you do not measure your success against that of others. Rather, measure your success with yourself. 

If you are a better person today than you were yesterday, take it from me: you are moving forward. Don’t lose focus in comparing yourself to your friends, neighbors, or co-workers. Focus on yourself.

4. Value who you are

Only you really know what you are worth and what you deserve. You don’t have to accept less. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior or tell you what you can’t achieve.

5. Don’t worry or ask yourself “What Will They Say?” 

Years ago I let myself be guided by what people thought of me and, in the end, I felt lost. Therefore, it is important that you connect with your own authenticity and do what you think is right. 

Stop worrying about what people think of you or what you do. Remember that it is not possible to please everyone, so act according to your criteria. 

6. Believe in yourself

One of the phrases that I recommend you repeat daily is: “I BELIEVE IN ME.” Why am I telling you this? Because when you have confidence in your abilities and in your judgment, you will know that you can achieve anything you set your mind to. Keep in mind that “what you believe, you believe.”

7. Embrace your imperfections

 Everyone – absolutely everyone – is a wonderfully imperfect being. Imagine for a moment how boring life would be if we were perfect!

So don’t be afraid to make mistakes, because they are actually teaching moments. When we accept that we are not perfect, we begin to love ourselves more.

Remember that loving yourself requires commitment and dedication. Don’t forget to accept yourself unconditionally, and let every step you take be a reminder of your worth and potential.

I would love you to start practicing these daily habits as soon as possible. If you dare to share your experience or if you need support, I invite you to leave me a message or contact me through my social networks (@bisilabokoko). 

As always, I am sending you a big hug.

Bisila Bokoko

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