Discovering Inner Peace: Tools to Achieve Mental and Emotional Serenit

Modern life can be very hectic, and maintaining mental and emotional serenity has become a challenge. However, after the pandemic, we have come to realize the importance of taking care of these aspects of our lives.

For many years we have prioritized physical health, focusing on achieving magazine bodies. However, that is not enough to achieve a full life.

We need to have good mental health and emotional self-control. This helps us, especially in the most difficult moments, by giving us the opportunity to make smarter decisions, learn to deal with stress, and relate to others in a healthy way.

To achieve this, it is essential to cultivate daily self-care. That is why I want to share with you a series of tools that will help you prioritize yourself and achieve mental and emotional serenity.

1. Express your Emotions

Since childhood we have been taught that crying is synonymous with weakness, causing our emotions to remain stagnant. We learn to repress our needs as children.

When we have unexpressed emotions, it is very difficult to unleash creativity, which is so necessary today in our daily lives and within our businesses.

For this reason, it is important to say what we think and what we feel.  Now you may be asking yourself, “How can I express my emotions?” Talking to someone you trust and telling them how you feel is usually the first option. Writing has helped me a lot, and dancing and singing are also one of the most efficient systems I know to release my emotions. Use any activity that helps you bring out what you have inside!

2. Connect with You

For this, you have to spend time alone with yourself. You must become your best friend. This is the most important relationship you can have in your life.

In my case, I manage to connect with myself through meditation. However, there are many possibilities, such as taking a walk in the park, going out for coffee, and even closing your eyes for a little while and being with you.

3. Surround yourself with Vitamin People

Surround yourself with people who, in addition to infecting you with their positive energy, know how to value you.

As I tell you in my book “We All Have a Story to Tell,” there are different types of friends. My recommendation to you is that you include at least one of each in your circle.

Nurture your friendship group with people who recognize that you are much bigger than you think and, as far as possible, get rid of those who do not value you and those who make you feel “less than.”

4. Rest

We must prioritize rest and sleep. I used to say that I could only sleep three or four hours. Well, it wasn’t until I started paying attention to the topic of sleep that I understood sleep is directly related to mental health.

If you don’t sleep well, you won’t have that mental strength you need to reach your daily energy levels.

5. Adopt Good Eating Habits

This may seem very obvious, but having a good diet is closely connected to mental health. There are certain foods that do not help us at all, because they cause inflammation and discomfort, while there are others that are very beneficial for our bodies and minds.

From time to time, treat yourself. In general, however, try to make good choices when it comes to eating.

6. Practice Enjoyment

If you like going to the movies, having tea with friends, painting, or exercising, it doesn’t matter… Do it!

Include activities that you like in your daily routines.

7. Celebrate your Victories

It is true that in many cultures this is not welcomed. However, we must understand that celebrating our achievements is vitally important.

When you surround yourself with wonderful people, they will be very happy about your successes and will celebrate them with you. So don’t be afraid to share your good news.

Don’t just expect your friends or family to celebrate you. You are the one who has been there hitting the deck to achieve victory, so celebrate it! This will generate well-being in all areas of your life.

8. Exercise

Physical activity helps us calm our minds, because when we exercise, our brains begin to release endorphins, which are also known as “happiness hormones.”

These substances have a calming effect on our minds and help us reduce stress and improve our moods.

9. Establish Healthy Relationships

It is important to build and maintain healthy relationships with the people around us. Avoid arguments and anger, because they will end up affecting your mental and emotional health and, of course, this will sap your energy.

Try to relate to others with kindness and understanding.

10. Set Limits

Setting limits in your life is one of the healthiest decisions you can make.

Knowing how to say “no” respectfully, especially when someone is crossing the line of respect, not only empowers you, but also communicates your expectations and needs to others.

11. Seek Help

We all have emotional wounds and have gone through difficult times. If you are feeling mentally and emotionally down, it is important to ask for help.

Seeking professional help and attending therapy is an act of courage and self-love. Recognizing that you need help enhances you as a person.

12. Reduce Complaints

Complaints only attract more complaints. If you dare to look at your life with different eyes and focus on the good things you have, you will see the magnificent changes that occur in you.

In the same way that your body improves when you diet and go to the gym, your mind also benefits when you diet mentally.

Remove complaints and criticism from your life and I assure you, from my own experience, that you will wake up with better energy and a better attitude.

13. Be grateful

Be grateful every day for everything life gives you. Don’t take anything for granted, no matter how small it may seem.

Be thankful for the people around you, because you have food, because you have water to shower, for a body that allows you to walk – for all! Sometimes the simplest is the most important.

Keep in mind that each and every one of us is capable of creating our best version when we take care of our mental, physical and emotional health.

Once again, thank you very much for being part of this community. Your stories are valuable to me, and it makes me happy to hear them. Don’t hesitate to write to me, and together we can continue growing!


Bisila Bokoko

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