There is a quote I love by George Bernard Shaw, which states, “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” This quote has helped me understand that, instead of searching for a lost self, what we really need to do is to create ourselves.
For that reason, today I want to share with you a practical guide so that you can become your best self and achieve your dreams.
Always remember that life is a journey towards self-realization, and enjoying every step of the way is as important as reaching the final goal. Let’s get started!
Know Yourself
The first and most fundamental step to becoming your best self is to know yourself.
This process of self-discovery goes far beyond a simple self-assessment; it is a deep exploration of who you are at your core.
Knowing yourself means taking the time to connect with your own beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and innermost aspects of your being, without being influenced by external expectations.
Self-knowledge also involves recognizing your strengths and weaknesses. When you have a clear understanding of yourself, you recognize yourself in your actions and take responsibility for them.
Decide Your Freedom
Freedom is one of the most fundamental rights that we as human beings possess, but sometimes we are the ones who put limits on our own freedom.
Many times we find ourselves trapped in self-imposed restrictions, whether out of fear, insecurity, or the influence of other people’s opinions. However, true freedom lies in our ability to choose between the alternatives that life presents to us.
To exercise your freedom effectively, I would like you to start by recognizing that you are the main architect of your life. Do not allow external circumstances to define who you are or what you can achieve.
Remember that although you cannot always control external events, you do have the absolute power to decide how to respond to them.
Open Yourself to Love
Love is one of the most powerful forces we can experience in our lives, and it has a profound impact on our personal growth.
It is not just about the ability to love those who are close to us, but about opening your heart to all the possibilities that life has to offer you.
In its various forms, love acts as a driving force for personal fulfillment. When you open yourself to loving intensely, you not only connect more deeply with others, but you also connect with yourself.
Furthermore, opening yourself to love implies being willing to receive it. Allowing others to show you affection and support strengthens your interpersonal bonds, which is crucial for balanced growth.
Choose Good Company
The people you choose to surround yourself with have a significant impact on your life and personal development.
Choosing your circle wisely is an important step on your journey towards the best version of yourself. The people who accompany you on your journey not only influence your mood and well-being, but they can also be a determining factor in your success and personal fulfillment.
Start by looking for people who inspire you and bring you value. These are the people who encourage you to achieve your goals and excel through their example, advice, and support.
Remember that good company is not limited to those who praise you or agree with you at all times. Sometimes, true friends are those who have the courage to offer you constructive criticism, who challenge you to improve, and who keep you honest with yourself. The key is to find a balance between unconditional support and encouragement to keep moving forward.
Don’t Fear Failure
Instead of fearing failure, my advice is to see it as an opportunity to learn and improve. It’s natural to feel uncomfortable or frustrated when things don’t go the way you expected.
Instead of letting the fear of failure paralyze you, use it as a tool for your personal evolution.
When you face failure, analyze the situation to understand what went wrong and what you can learn from it. This reflection will allow you to identify areas for improvement and apply those learnings in future attempts. By doing so, you become better prepared to face similar challenges and will become more resilient.
Invest in Yourself
The most valuable investment you can make is in yourself, and it’s not just about financial aspects. It is also about dedicating time, energy, and resources to your personal and professional development.
When you choose to invest in yourself, you are building a solid foundation to achieve your long-term dreams and goals.
In addition, this commitment to yourself reinforces your confidence and motivates you to keep moving forward.
Start Over When Necessary
Sometimes, in order to move forward and become the best version of yourself, it is essential to be willing to start over.
This ability to restart should not be seen as a sign of failure, but rather as an opportunity to learn, adapt, and grow with greater awareness.
Starting over is a brave and often necessary step to achieve your goals and dreams.
Remember that the world is constantly evolving and so are you. Keep your mind open to new possibilities and don’t be afraid to adjust your goals and methods when necessary.
Becoming your best version is an ongoing journey that requires self-knowledge, courage and, above all, commitment. And don’t forget that trust in yourself and in the process is key to achieving your dreams.
As always, I am here to support you on this path, so don’t hesitate to leave me your feedback and follow me on social media (@bisilabokoko).
I wish you much success on your journey towards your best version!
A hug,
Bisila Bokoko
